1. Beauty is a strange thing. Even those who are declared to have, what at that point in time, in a particular culture, is called 'beauty' will loose it. It is sometimes just a look useful for selling a lifestyle, a cultural quirk. Yet people do find beauty in others, even when people may say "what does she see in him?" or "he see in her". Maybe it does exist despite not being definable. Maybe it is just that thing which makes two people want to spend time with eachother, beyond the tedious 'sexual attractiveness' stage that gets people all worked up and exploited. Despite being persued by too many, the commercial varient of it is dangerous many ways. Beauty can have ugly consequences.

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2. I’d rather see your face. If you’re just talking why not let us see you? I get that you want to try something different, but why not stick with what works! I like you just the way you are. You are interesting and unique – something incredibly rare in the world. p.s. You have a cute nose. I have a beak nose.

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3. Hah, I got some great laughs out of this one. I actually really agree with you on just about everything you said to be honest. As i get older (im 32), I find myself moving in that direction more and more as well.

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4. I am an English major. Beauty is truth snd truth is beauty

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5. Love your thoughts on beauty, plastic surgery etc. It's like so many people are compelled to do that. They get pressured by themselves or others to look like the "beauty standards" created by pop culture, tradition, whatnot. Sometimes going to drastic measures to do that, with not necessarily good results. Just look at Pete Burns.

   I didn't care about the beauty rat race from the very beginning. I still don't. Maybe that's because I was overweight as a kid and in my teens, I'm slightly overweight now that I'm 15 months into HRT and am stressed out as fuck. I accept the way I am, and I'm grateful to myself for being a free spirit that I am, not conforming to peer pressure. That's also what body positivity should be like: no matter how different our bodies are, there's no "only true and universal standard people should adhere to", and excluding anyone would be just imposing some kind of beauty standards, no matter if they're mainstream Western or not.

   Sometimes I wonder if you went through any voice feminization surgeries because you sound totally afab.

   To be completely honest, I adore how you looked back in your 30s, given that I've been into the gothic/alternative (and fetish, pin-up etc.) aesthetics for fifteen years now.
   Sometimes I wonder how I'm gonna look in my fifties or later, but I don't really care because what is gonna come will come, it's a natural flow of life and there's deep beauty (not just the superficial kind) to be seen on faces and in lives of happy, intelligent, wise, fulfilled and creative beings.

   Blending in, well, it's a survival strategy after all. One of many us trans girls have to resort to. A different one is forming a community/collective capable of scaring off attackers or beating them up. Mine is staying away from men and male-dominated spaces, choosing the company of open-minded women (predominantly trans but it's not a must) and non-binary people. Sometimes it's hard to do if you want to combine it with working in science or tech… that's another reason (apart from autism spectrum related ones) why I'm scared of "normal workplaces".
   I remember that I was once being picked up by a stranger, that was like in 2008, I was coming back home from a party, dressed in leather, wearing a hat, heels, makeup and possibly a corset too, having rather short undyed hair – basically my androgynous dandy look from the pre-transition years, when I was feeling strongly non-binary. A guy on the bus was flirting with me and I was having fun of him by being mysterious. Finally he asked me about my name and I told him the deadname (I probably didn't use an unofficial feminine middle name yet), he was quite surprised!
   Got my share of catcalling, verbal harassment and some attack attempts (one unfortunately successful) in my life before I even transitioned, and it's going really well now when I'm on hormones.

   As for the ugliness of humans… my queerfriend could relate. I don't. Homo sapiens is just yet another species found on Tau'ri, no exception to the positive or the negative. The social constructs created by humans, on the other hand… sometimes they're really abhorent.

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